I love stumbling across random blogs and finding a musing that inspires me for the day - sometimes longer. So I feel I owe it to cyberspace to give as well as take ('that's what she said' - any office fans out there?!)...
In thinking about whether or not I'd like to keep blogging, I've decided just to blog when I want to and publish when I feel it's something worth sharing, if I want to reach out, get random, dare I say, 'advice' from strangers who have followed this here blog, or sometimes just because I feel like it.
So, today, I feel like sharing something - it's not about weddings or babies, but it is about L.O.V.E...
This week I lunched with someone I l.o.v.e like a sister and this is how the conversation went:
She: What does it feel like to be in love?
Me: I'm not really sure what to say to you. I imagine it's different for everyone?!
She: My friend says its when you can't stop thinking about someone...
Me: No, that's just obsession lol...or maybe infatuation lol....thinking about someone all the time is probably a prerequisite for being 'in love' but experiencing those things doesn't always mean you're 'in love'...why are you asking...
She: [looking at me blank and desperate for an answer]
Me: I personally think being 'in love' is when you are so obsessed with someone that you want to share things with them and want them to share things with you, then you end up knowing them and sharing so much with them that you discover things about them that you don't like, yet you love them anyway, possibly even more than before you knew all the bad stuff...
[eloquent I know!]
...and so the conversation continued.
I still don't know if that was the 'right' thing to say to her... but then today, I was clearing out my inbox (after about 2 years!) and I came across an email about kid's opinions on love...I had to share.
These were my personal favourites:
'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.
Rebecca- age 8
'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.'
Billy - age 4
'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.'
Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.'
Noelle - age 7
'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.'
Cindy - age 8
'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image!) Karen - age 7
Apparently, the winning response from these kids was a four year old child
whose next door neighbour was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbour, the little boy said,
'Nothing, I just helped him cry'
Next time I'm asked, I hope I can come up with something as profound as these kids have done...
Still me, Still Mrs O